This is Amelie. She likes to purse her lips to form an intriguing ‘O’. This happens several times a day and it is as though she makes that face in awe and wonder of the world she sees. Everytime she does it, Mommy smiles like a silly goose.
Feedings are increasing from 60ml to 80ml, two to three hourly. Her appetite is bottomless these days. I think a growth spurt might be on the way!
An extra confinement dish for dinner tonight – Chicken and Black Fungus in Ginger and Soy. Wonderful things neighbors do… ♥ #blessed
Thank you Connie!
It’s been a lovely 3 weeks since we brought Amelie into our lives. Aidan has coped surprisingly well with his baby sister’s arrival and never ceases to shower pats and kisses on her. I do get over-protective and constantly nag at Aidan to be *gentle* with Amelie, but I am trying hard to be extra conscious and sensitive to his feelings.
For a four year old, Aidan is quite understanding and doesn’t gripe about mommy lavishing more attention on the new baby, and for that I am thankful. While it is unavoidable that will be moments where he pulls a long face or simply become low-spirited when he feels a little left out of the action – I mean, I would too, if I kept hearing this:
No you can’t feed the baby because she is still too young, she might cough and choke!
You can’t shower the baby, it’s dangerous, the baby might drown!
We are now more mindful of the way we phrase our NOs into rejection infused with positivities…
Maybe when she is a bit older you can help prepare her milk and feed her?
How about you observe how Mommy gives baby a bath and you can help to dry her?
Will you be a darling and help fetch a diaper and a fresh romper for baby Amelie?
And now he is such a good little helper! Aidan rushes to comfort the baby when she cries, and I will give him a cuddle and promptly declare how proud I am of him that he cares for Amelie. Upon hearing this, he never fails to flash his toothy beaming smile at me. For once without a doubt, I feel like I’m navigating this second-time parent business just fine!
Thankfully friends and family who came to visit were very thoughtful to have brought presents for both the new baby and her big brother, so Aidan is kept happy. We struggle to maintain an environment of normalcy for the kor kor (哥哥) who suddenly realises that he now not only has to share Mom and Dad with the new baby, but *gasp*, visitors too! So this little gesture really goes a long way and helps reduce the stress of adapting to the changes that a new family addition brings for both parents and kid.
We are not sure if this time round we will arrange a full-moon (满月) celebration for Amelie when she turns one month old – from our experience with Aidan these events tend to be quite tiring with throngs of people to entertain and lots of cleaning up to do when everyone leaves. BUT, I can just imagine when Amelie is older she might lament, “Why you all so double standard, do for kor kor never do for ME?!!”
This baby has been on my want list for a long time now. It will look perfect in our bedroom. Unfortunately Ivan feels that at $799, it is extortionately over priced. The husband thinks that he can put together a sideboard just as functional and pretty as this IKEA Stockholm Sideboard. I hardly think the time and sweat put into carpentry sawing, nailing and laminating is worth the money we might potentially save.
Is it weird that I get flutters in my belly every time I pass by this piece of expensive furniture at the IKEA showroom? Maybe it’s just the dinner meatballs sloshing around.
We go to IKEA too much. #firstworldproblems
This is the result of delivering my baby via caesarean section. A scar to remember the moment she exited my body. The beginning of letting go.
She lives outside my body now. Perfectly capable of breathing and drinking and crying. She is her own little person and too soon she will be taking her own steps. One day she will fall in love, marry and have kids of her own.
I can’t help but want to hold on to this moment for a while longer. To snuggle close to her soft baby hair. Take in the faint smell of breast milk on her chin. Place her sleeping form on my belly and wonder how did she ever fit inside.
Hey baby, do you know some body loves you? I do.
So very much.